026 Adoption Update & See You in September

An adoption update!  In today’s episode, I shared:

  • Our history with wanting to adopt, our previous application to adopt from China
  • Our decision to withdraw from our previous adoption agency and no longer pursue adoption from China
  • A quick overview of how international adoption works in general
  • The bad news: We have to start all over again (again)
  • The good news:  We’ve done it before, so we’re pros!
  • The awesome part: Why we decided we are pursuing an adoption from South Korea  (Check out our adoption agency’s information page to learn more about adoption from South Korea.)
    • preserving birth order (our adopted child will be our youngest child and, God-willing, have younger biological siblings in the future)
    • shorter timeline because of our goal to have at least one more biological child
    • time between application and match (aka referral), averages between 6-12 months
    • child is usually 18-30 months at the time of placement (aka homecoming)
    • strong foster care system
    • excellent medical care provided for child, accuracy of medical records sent to adoptive parents for deciding on referrals & continued communication
    • possibility of relationship with birth parents
    • our children are encouraged to join us on the trips there!  (2 short, week-long visits involved)
  • What does all of this mean for us right now?
    • We are trying to complete all of our paperwork ASAP (goal: dossier submission in September)

I’m hitting pause on the podcast until September to focus on our adoption.  I’ll be back in the fall with new episodes and interviews.

Please keep in touch until then!  As always, you can e-mail me at podcastATcatherineboucherDOTcom or find me on Facebook or Instagram

025 Summer Potpourri

Sorry I missed you last week!  We decided to skip town and head to Kansas City while our house’s main floor is getting a remodel.  That picture is our family at Worlds of Fun as we waited out a rainstorm that never ended.

Trip recap:

New favorite thing: Donuts and drinks on the parish playground after Mass.  Kids play, parents catch up.  Everyone wins!

What I’ve been reading:

Book Buddies With Jane & Friends

  • If you don’t know what I’m talking about, go back to Episode 013 Starting a Kids’ Book Club
  • We have our next meeting this weekend to discuss Lisa Hendey’s book, The Mystery at Midnight ( from her Chime Travelers series about twins who go back in time to solve mysteries about saints)
  • Listener Sheila contacted me to say that her daughters started their own book club this summer!  They already met once and are hoping to read 3 books this summer.

Catechesis programs for little ones: What do you know about Catechesis of the Good Shepherd?  How does your church reach the little ones?

The Well-Behaved Child by Dr. John Rosemond check discipline system

  • 6 Checks (keep track on dry erase board in kitchen)
  • Checks 1-3 are warnings (“buffer zone,” limit this for older kids)
  • Check 4: Lose dessert
  • Check 5: Lose screens
  • Check 6: Go to bed 1 hour early

Amanda wants to know how I get the kids to “work it out”

  • In response to my annual summer PSA on FB to the neighbors, letting them know that they’re going to hear a lot of screaming from my house that they haven’t been hearing all winter
  • Summer rules
    • Bodies have private parts that stay private
    • Keep your body to yourself
    • Tidy up before you leave
    • Work it out
      • Walt’s 1st grade teacher taught them: Unless there’s blood, barf, or a bathroom emergency, you can probably handle it.
      • Talk to the person you’re having a problem with.  Talk to them again. And again. Ask friends for help if you need to.  Come to an adult if you really can’t work it out or if it’s an emergency.
    • When they come to tattle, whine, or get me to referee I say
      • That doesn’t sound like an emergency.  That sounds like something you need to work out with _____.  Come back if it’s an emergency.
      • I let them know with my body language that I’m not engaging them on it.  
      • They come less
    • How do you help your kids learn to work it out?  Do you have household ground rules that are helping everyone to have a happier summer?  Send them my way! I want to hear about them!

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024 When Your Spouse Travels with Ashley Stevens

This week, I’m sharing a conversation I had with Ashley Stevens about how she and her three girls thrive when her husband, Brad, has to travel for work.  She share some great tips and general advice.

My weekly recap:

  • Our kids are participating in the Diocese of Lincoln’s Totus Tuus program this week
  • It is so much fun to finally be a read-aloud family!  Audiobooks before naptime are a major hit. The kids usually color or play with their Plus-Plus tubes.  We are about halfway through the Henry Huggins audiobooks.  Our bedtime read-aloud is Where the Red Fern grows. We have 3 contenders for our next read-aloud, and we’d love for you to weigh in with your vote:
  • Big milestone last Friday night: I took the kids to the pool by myself for the first time! 
  • What are your limiting beliefs?  How are you battling them?

Links/Resources mentioned this episode:

  • FOCUS (Fellowship of Catholic University Students)
  • Ashley’s blog and ministry page, Mountains Unmoved
  • Ashley’s post, “Why Are Some Mountains Left Unmoved?” where she shares about the inspiration for the name of her ministry and links to her interview on the 700 Club
  • The lie of “this is the way things will always be forever”
  • How Brad participates in disciplining when he’s traveling
  • Favorite games to play with Brad when he’s home:
  • Ashley’s blog post, “Friendship is Worth the Awkwardness
  • Making friendship connections when Brad is gone
  • What makes life simple when Brad is gone:
    • Making a big meal before Brad leaves and reheating each day
  • Blessings/pros of having Brad travel for work
    • Travel reward points to visit relatives
    • Getting to watch her shows on Netflix!
    • More time to work on her ministry
    • Self time to recharge
  • In Praise of ‘Scruffy Hospitality’
  • Things “saving Ashley’s life” when Brad is gone:
    • Roomba
    • YMCA’s 2-hour babysitting
    • The Well-Behaved Child by Dr. John Rosemond check discipline system
      • 6 Checks (keep track on dry erase board in kitchen)
      • Checks 1-3 are warnings (“buffer zone,” limit this for older kids)
      • Check 4: Lose dessert
      • Check 5: Lose screens
      • Check 6: Go to bed 1 hour early
  • Ashley’s “holiness hack”
    • Book: He Leadeth Me by Fr. Walter Ciszek, S.J.
      • Quote: “What can ultimately trouble the soul that accepts every moment of every day as a gift from the hands of God and strives always to do his will?”
    • Turning her alarm back another 30 minutes to add to prayer time and bring peace to morning routine

Connect with Ashley!

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    • our next read-aloud
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023 The Fast Food Rule

Last week’s recap:

  • The summer chore chart is still a success around here
  • Philip and I celebrated our 10-year anniversary and had a quick getaway to Palm Springs
  • I’m 20 years late to the Harry Potter party.  I need your opinion: Should I read the other books on paper or listen to the audio versions?  Weigh in!  Also, which house do you think the Sorting Hat would put me in?  (Marriage tip: Don’t tell your husband would be a Slytherin!)

The Fast Food Rule:

Audiobooks and Read-Aloud Time:

Questions for YOU:

  • How’s your summer going?  What are your summer hacks?
  • What are your favorite audiobooks (for children or yourself)?

Get in touch!

022 Our Summer Chore Chart

In today’s episode, I thought I’d share about our Summer Chore Chart.  This thing is already saving my sanity this summer (yes, we’re just a week in).  I explained how I came up with the chart, which kid is doing what, and when these jobs are happening.  It’s super simple, and it just might save your sanity this summer, too!

Our 2018 Summer Chore Chart

Questions for YOU:

  • How do you enlist your kids’ help around the house?
  • What jobs do your kids help out with that I might have overlooked?
  • Do you have a unique system you want to share?
  • Or, maybe you have a general summer sanity saving tip to share!  Send those tips my way!  

Get in touch!

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021 Parenting Dismantles Pride

Weekly update:

  1. Happy birthday to Walt!
  2. Have you seen the movie A Quiet Place?  Philip and I saw it last week, and I shared my thoughts about the film.  Here’s Bishop Barron’s Review of the movie.

Main topic:  This week, I shared my most embarrassing parenting moment of 2018…so far!  Since it’s only May, I’ll probably have a new one by week’s end.  I thought I’d share it in the hopes that it encourages you in all of your parenting fails.

Questions for you:

  • What are YOUR embarrassing parenting moments that helped build humility?
  • How do you stop your “I’ve got my life together” pride from helping you to learn from those moments?
  • What are your favorite summer lunch recipes for big groups?  Bonus points if they can be made ahead of time, in batches, or little hands can help with assembly!

Get in touch!

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020 Death Row Ministry with Jen Trausch

It’s episode 20!  Woo-hoo!  Thank you for all of your support and cheerleading of While You Were Folding!

This week, I have a great episode to share with you.  Jen Trausch shared about her experience ministering to the men on death row in the state of Nebraska.  She shared what the experience is like, how it has changed her view of forgiveness/worthiness, and showed her how to be the Face of Christ for others.

Two of my favorite quotes:

“We just sit and talk and eat Twizzler’s.”

“It’s like a neighborhood block party with neighbors I’ve never met before.”

Links/Resources Mentioned this episode:

NAPD (Nebraskans for Alternatives to the Death Penalty)

NACC (National Association of Catholic Chaplains)

The Corporal Works of Mercy

The Spiritual Works of Mercy

Catechism of the Catholic Church passages on capital punishment

2267 Assuming that the guilty party’s identity and responsibility have been fully determined, the traditional teaching of the Church does not exclude recourse to the death penalty, if this is the only possible way of effectively defending human lives against the unjust aggressor.

If, however, non-lethal means are sufficient to defend and protect people’s safety from the aggressor, authority will limit itself to such means, as these are more in keeping with the concrete conditions of the common good and more in conformity to the dignity of the human person.

Today, in fact, as a consequence of the possibilities which the state has for effectively preventing crime, by rendering one who has committed an offense incapable of doing harm – without definitely taking away from him the possibility of redeeming himself – the cases in which the execution of the offender is an absolute necessity “are very rare, if not practically nonexistent.”

2306 Those who renounce violence and bloodshed and, in order to safeguard human rights, make use of those means of defense available to the weakest, bear witness to evangelical charity, provided they do so without harming the rights and obligations of other men and societies. They bear legitimate witness to the gravity of the physical and moral risks of recourse to violence, with all its destruction and death.

Evangelium Vitae, St. Pope John Paul II’s encyclical on the Value and Inviolability of Human Life

56. This is the context in which to place the problem of the death penalty. On this matter there is a growing tendency, both in the Church and in civil society, to demand that it be applied in a very limited way or even that it be abolished completely. The problem must be viewed in the context of a system of penal justice ever more in line with human dignity and thus, in the end, with God’s plan for man and society. The primary purpose of the punishment which society inflicts is “to redress the disorder caused by the offence”.46 Public authority must redress the violation of personal and social rights by imposing on the offender an adequate punishment for the crime, as a condition for the offender to regain the exercise of his or her freedom. In this way authority also fulfils the purpose of defending public order and ensuring people’s safety, while at the same time offering the offender an incentive and help to change his or her behaviour and be rehabilitated. 47

It is clear that, for these purposes to be achieved, the nature and extent of the punishment must be carefully evaluated and decided upon, and ought not go to the extreme of executing the offender except in cases of absolute necessity: in other words, when it would not be possible otherwise to defend society. Today however, as a result of steady improvements in the organization of the penal system, such cases are very rare, if not practically non-existent.

In any event, the principle set forth in the new Catechism of the Catholic Church remains valid: “If bloodless means are sufficient to defend human lives against an aggressor and to protect public order and the safety of persons, public authority must limit itself to such means, because they better correspond to the concrete conditions of the common good and are more in conformity to the dignity of the human person”

For listeners wanting to visit with Jen’s group, contact Nebraskans Against the Death Penalty (NADP) at: matt@nadp.net or you can e-mail Jen at jennifersmith2524@gmail.com
JPay is the “email” service provided to inmates. Information for their services can be found at: www.jpay.com

Art Display: A few of “the guys,” (Jose Sandoval, Jorge Galindo, and Raymond Mata), created works of art for Jen and her dad.  These completed works are on display along with information about Jen’s ministry in the parlor of First Presbyterian Church in Lincoln (17th and F St).

Jen’s book recommendations mentioned in the episode:

A recent 5-star read that I shared: 7 Secrets of Confession by Vinny Flynn

Clearly, Jen and I aren’t very good at light, “beachy” reads.  🙂  Send us your breezy summer book titles!

Get in touch!  Send questions or topic suggestions my way.  As always, you can e-mail me at podcastATcatherineboucherDOTcom or find me on Facebook or Instagram

019 A Mother’s Ministry of Presence

This past month, I started making some changes to how I approach my days.  I used to jam-pack my schedule and rush from one thing to the next.  Now, I’m bringing my planner to my prayer time, and I’m choosing my “Big 3” things that I hope to accomplish each day.  Most days, I limit myself to my morning prayer, exercise, and 1 other task.  I’m noticing that keeping my to-do list shorter and more focused is helping me to connect with the people in my life on a deeper level.  I’m calling this my “Mother’s Ministry of Presence.”  In this episode, I shared how I’m seeing that Ministry of Presence bear fruit at the grocery store and within my parish.

Links to things mentioned in this episode:

Questions for You:

  • Are you like me and try to maximize your time and things off of your to-do list, running frantically from one thing to the next?  In your rushing, are you treating people like speed bumps and barriers to rush past?
  • Can you think of a person you encounter on a regular basis that you can make time to have a more meaningful encounter?  Bank teller? Grocery store cashier? Neighbor? A child’s teacher?
  • Does your parish have some sort of a Mentor Mom or “Adopt a Grandparent” ministry?  What does it look like?
  • I want to hear how you’re slowing down and having a Ministry of Presence for the people around you.  Please send me your stories! 

Get in touch!  Send questions or topic suggestions my way.  As always, you can e-mail me at podcastATcatherineboucherDOTcom or find me on Facebook or Instagram

018 Book Buddies With Brenda Bahensky

If you had any doubts as to whether or not God has a sense of humor, listen to the story of how today’s guest and I met.  Today, Brenda and I talked all things books, and we got to do a little literary matchmaking.

Some of Brenda’s Childhood favorites:

Brenda’s current reader profile:

  • 70% fiction to 30% non-fiction
  • fiction is mostly historical (favorite period is early to mid 20th century)
  • Nonfiction is mostly parenting, biography, or memoir
  • almost all e-books, mostly from the library

Topics covered:

  • how Brenda makes reading happen as a mother of 3 young children (Libby, by OverDrive on the phone)
  • how she finds the books she reads
  • how we feel about being a “book breaker-upper” (and how Brenda wishes she were different in this regard)
  • Brenda’s current roadblocks to having the reading life she wants
  • how she feels about her endings and what she needs in her characters

Literary matchmaking with Brenda (format unabashedly borrowed from the What Should I Read Next? Podcast by Anne Bogel)

My Recommendations for Brenda:

Brenda’s Recommendations for me:

Closing Questions:

  1. Go back in time.  What advice do you have for new mama Brenda?
  2. What’s something (big or small) that’s making your life easier lately?

Questions for you, listener:

  • A Series of Unfortunate Events – what do you think about these books?  Have you read them?  Have your children?  Would you recommend them for your kids?
  • What do you think of my book recommendations for Brenda?  Do you have any titles to add to my list?
  • Do you celebrate May Day?  What does your family do?
  • Don’t you think Jennifer Fulwiler should add Lincoln, NE to her book tour for One Beautiful Dream?  Me too!

For those who asked about it, here is the First Communion Novena we prayed with Jane leading up to her big day.

Get in touch!  Send questions or topic suggestions my way.  As always, you can e-mail me at podcastATcatherineboucherDOTcom or find me on Facebook or Instagram

017 Jane’s First Holy Communion

Jane received her First Holy Communion last Saturday, and she came on the podcast to share about her experience.

Hooray for helpers!  Jenny and Bekah, thank you for everything you did to help make Jane’s First Holy Communion a peaceful, prayerful day!

Question: How does your parish handle seating during First Holy Communion Mass?  Do the First Communicants sit by themselves?  Do families sit together?

Our awesome find at the local Catholic bookstore – St. Joseph Daily and Sunday Missal (3-volume set, leather, zippered)

Prayer request: GodTeens finale Mass on Sunday.  Please pray for our GodTeens and all of the graduating seniors as they discern their next chapter.  May God keep them close and may they always lean on Him.

Husker Catholic Candlelit Rosary this Sunday, April 29th 8-9 p.m. (surround the border of UNL’s campus)

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